For the First Time

Last night, I watched Purple Rain. It was my first viewing of this film. I was amazed at the talent: the singing, the dancing, the costumery.

Even for its time, I imagine it being something special, something before its time.

There was a scene, where the husband/father says, “I can make you happy, if you just believe in me.”

What does he mean?

Does he want his wife to believe he can make her happy? Does he want her grateful for what he does provide? Or, does he feel so incomplete in himself, he needs-nay, requires-her belief in his abilities?

He cannot maker her happy.

She must do this herself.

He is not her jailer; her thinking imprisons her where she is.

Their situation is familiar, but it is certainly not comfortable.

His belief in himself must come from within. He can only ever be dependent upon his own inner reserves for his worth.

We are to be whole unto ourselves.

How can we partner another, when we cannot partner ourselves? We are our examples. We are the blueprint.

We cannot escape…ourselves.

This husband/father then says, “I will die for you.”

Does he mean he intends to? Is that his only way out? Does he believe this sacrifice proves the depth of his love?

Would kindness not be better than death? Communication? Shared journey? One can feel alone while still being in partnership.

I have heard some say, “I would die for this country.” I say, “Live.”

Relationships can be ugly. They can be messy. Raw. It is where we do the work. Where we see ourselves clearly.

Whatever we are needing, are we able to give (to ourselves)?

We must be in our Wholeness.

This is what we are. It is what we always are. No one changes this. No one has this power.

As you move through your life, remember this.

You are your power.